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It’s Our Time, It’s Our Turn

October 18, 2016 at 6:00 AM


We hear about the Millennials, we hear about Generation X, the baby boomers. But have you heard about the gray matter? The silent generation? That’s us! Those of us born between 1930-1945.

Well, we are not so silent anymore. We’ve found our voices. We are able to have second, third and fourth chapters in our lives. We turned out to be the lucky ones because we are living longer, wiser and in a more healthy state than others before us. We have treatments, options, and medicines available to us, that has never been given to any other generation. We are all taking advantage.

We are living in a healthspan, meaning we can fight off age-related diseases like diabetes, arthritis, etc, for an extra 10-15 years. It’s because we know how to eat properly and exercise, we have gained these bonus years.

Anne Garrett, 80, was fit enough to set an unofficial national half marathon record in the women’s 80 to 84 age division with a time of 2:13:23.

Jane Goodall still does miraculous work at 82. Chief Justice, Ruth Bader Ginsburg, 83, needs no explanation.

The formidable and ever funny Lady Trumpington, 91, is the oldest woman in the House of Lords. Dr. Ruth, 88, is a famous sex therapist. Toni Morrison, Pulitzer Winner Writer, 85.

These are only the famous ones, but there is those of us who are learning, taking classes, running races, starting romances and even getting married at 89. That is life for the no longer “silent generation.”

So write on your list, what it is that you really want to do? Because there is still time to do so much. Say to yourself, “I want to write that book,” “I want to learn this language,” “I want to take up yoga.” And then just go and do it.

It’s our time and our turn to show what we have got!


Dreams Come True

October 12, 2016 at 6:00 AM


I wanted to do a TED Talk forever. I wrote it down on my wish list for this year and lo and behold (that gives my age away right there) I got one!! I will be speaking at TEDx UpperWestside WOMEN on October 27 at the Leonard Nimoy Theatre in New York. The theme of the day is “Isn’t it about time?” So my speech is: Isn’t it about time we change the way we look at aging? This is how it came about.

I took a great online course for TED Talks from Tabby Biddle (who is sensational, BTW) and at the very end of the course she suggested to pick out 2 organizers (they run the individual TEDx Talk) out of a list of TT’s online and send them your idea.

She didn’t know them. I didn’t know them. Cold Call! Scary!

I sent an email to one of the organizers, Elizabeth Barry, who said, “I’ll call you in an hour!” OMG, I thought, she’s interested! She called me back in exactly an hour and said, “Pitch me over the phone.” I pitched her for about a minute and she said, “Welcome to my TEDx family.” I almost fainted! “Does that mean I have a slot?” I asked. “Yes, you’re in. Start getting your speech together. I’ll start working with you next week.” And that was it!!!! She’s terrific also!!

That was about ten days ago and now we talk about twice a week to have her help me hone my speech. She’s very generous with her time. This is amazing! Such an incredible experience for me.

Here is the video she asked us to send in for her website. Check out the website and the speakers. http://www.tedxupperwestsidewomen.com

I’m so excited. It just proves we have to keep reaching for our dreams no matter what our age is.

Never give up!

Is Lifestyle The Answer?

October 4, 2016 at 6:00 AM


In my family, every woman died before the age of 64! As my friend said the other day when I turned 82, “you have just missed the opportunity of dying young, Beverlye.” That’s OK with me. I have the privilege of having the knowledge that sadly my grandmother, mother and two sisters did not have.

Medicine has come such a long way, teaching us not only about what to do once we have our diseases but how to do preventative medicine. My mother didn’t exercise, my sisters didn’t exercise and my grandmother was way too busy putting out the wash for her eleven children. That was her exercise.

My groundbreaking generation, not only has the opportunity to learn how to protect ourselves from the effects of aging and to push back age-related diseases, but the responsibility to pass that information on to the generations behind us. It’s our job. It’s our pleasure!

Do you remember (those of you in my generation) that little man in his one-piece jump suit that we naively made fun of, Jack Lalanne? Well, we are not making fun of him now. He was way ahead of his time! He lived in a good healthspan until 96 years of age. He drank green juices, exercised every day and stayed the same weight his whole life. His theory was that our bodies needed less food as we grew older and he was right about that too.

I’ve lived nineteen years longer than any woman in my family and I believe it’s because of the lifestyle I have chosen. I drink green juices too, Jack. I exercise every day. I have plans for my future, more speaking, more books, perhaps another documentary or video. I have so many things left to do, so consequently I need my strength to do them. When I feel tired, I push myself to do just five more minutes on the hiking trail. When I’m exhausted I listen to my body and get in to bed. If I need to stay there a day, I do. The next day I am back walking or back at the gym feeling wonderful. I plan events that will excite my brain.

It’s easy to isolate as we grow older. We must fight against that. It’s important to leave our houses (which become our havens) to socialize and to keep our bodies and our minds limber. It is as important as eating healthy foods. Keep looking for firsts. They excite our brain and start our endorphins going. They are there for us, you just have to search fort them. This year I took up Tai Chi. It’s very cool! Find a first and do it.

One of my favorite quotes is, “Your genetics load the gun, your lifestyle pulls the trigger” by Mehmet Oz

Something will eventually pull my trigger, but it definitely won’t be because of my lifestyle.


Sweet Dreams

September 27, 2016 at 6:00 AM


He woke up early, maybe around 6:00 or 6:30. He slept, snored, talked and moved around all night. I laid awake, hoping for some shut eye, fixing my pillow, moving around, finally giving in to reading, taking another pill and falling into a shallow sleep.

I hear him lift the dog up saying, “Let’s not wake your mom.” I think I’ll never go back to sleep but I do. The sweetest sleep, more out than in, dreaming, all dreams. My sisters come and talk to me. My friends drift in and out, all in a nice way. My Dad was in one of my dreams this morning. He was going fishing, just like he used to. I hope he is still fishing. He loved it.

I’d be half awake myself, mentally scanning my date book. Look at the clock, one eye closed. I have another hour to sleep. I don’t think I can and then I do fall back into the half sleep with all the dreams. The room is quiet. The room is dark! Just the way I like it. No dog, nor husband talking, snoring. Comforter up over my shoulder, yum!

I fall deeper, but still a little conscious and dreaming. Dreaming all the time. I’m fixing up one of my houses, moving a chair here, moving a painting there, sitting on the porch at my beloved Tollis Avenue, about to have a party, table all set, camera ready. Life is good.

I know I’m missing early hikes. I know I’m missing early coffees. I know I could be with friends chatting about our day, but I just love my morning sleep.

The sweetest sleep of all.

Aging Today

September 14, 2016 at 6:00 AM

I just read a book that is a best-seller and a very well written sweet book. But I must admit, it did annoy me a lot! It was about two people who had fallen in love, and about their neighbor friend Ruth, who was a very little old lady at 82!! The two people that fell in love were in their early 70’s and everyone was shocked that they would be that old and still find happiness with each other.

What’s going on here? I quickly looked to see when the book was published, thinking maybe it was from the 40’s, but no, it was from 2015. Where have they been? What century are they talking about? I talk in senior citizen homes all the time where people are vital, vibrant, getting married in their late 80’s, and taking up yoga at 93. No one I’ve met is old at 82. We might be a bit slower, a lot more forgetful, and maybe a touch more hard of hearing, but the people I see in their 70’s , 80’s and 90’s are all as involved, optimistic and interesting as they ever were. They are so busy working out and preparing for races, classes, giving back and travel they have no time to think about being “old.”

This is a changing world and I intend to be a one-man band, shouting from roof tops to change the thinking about aging. I want to show that my ground-breaking generation is here to let all of you coming up behind us know that aging is different today. We have taken care of ourselves in a way that no generation before us has ever done. We have kept ourselves strong in mind and body, and because of that we need to be looked at and treated differently!

We have important things to share we have learned along the way. We can’t wait to show why you (you collective 40, 50 and 60 year olds) should not be afraid of aging. If you eat well, keep exercising, be optimistic and plan ahead, your body will be living in a healthspan that will carry you for the rest of your life. I could go on and on!

Really, don’t get me started!!!!!!!

Labor Day 2016

September 6, 2016 at 6:00 AM


Hope you all had a wonderful day of sleeping late, sports, maybe a movie and lots of relaxation!

Happy Labor Day!

End Of Summer Blues

September 1, 2016 at 6:00 AM


How did Labor Day sneak up so fast? Does that mean no more white pants and shoes? I’m sick of my summer clothes anyway. I keep wearing the same outfits everyday.  Or does it mean that now it is really going to get hot after we put everything away?

We are invited to a wedding Saturday night and I can’t wait to slip into a little black Armani dress (I hope it fits). This is that funny time of the year where it is neither this nor that! Tans have faded, children are either back in school or almost back. Some are going away to universities and everyone is kind of unsettled.

We had a wonderful couple of weeks in Sun Valley with the family and had great time.  Even though we planned for it for months, now it’s over and we’re back at our beach. We sold our place in Los Angeles and so we’re incorporating some of our things into this condo. The rest we either gave away or have in storage for some unrealistic plans to use them someplace else.

We had some scary health issues, that turned out fine afterall, but shook us to the core. We were going to take a driving trip but didn’t, so maybe in the Fall? I swore to myself to take off the summer as far as speaking went and so my book is limping a bit, but I’m back on track and have some interesting book signings, podcasts and panels lined up for Fall.

I’m looking forward to a roaring fire, some winter food and a jacket thrown on my shoulders to keep me warm.

I hope you all have had a good summer. Enjoy Labor day sales (good times to get a new TV or car), and linger at the beach with some rosé as the sun goes down.

Bring on the boots, sweaters and blue jeans!

We’re ready!



Talking With My Sister Eileen

August 23, 2016 at 6:00 AM

Eileen Fisher Kreiss

I often talk with my sister Eileen about aging while I’m driving. Even though she passed away more than 15 years ago, she still answers me, most of the time.

I tell her, “you wouldn’t like this, you know. Being in your eighties isn’t so easy!” “I know you were beautiful your whole life, but now you would wake up with your eyes swollen (as I do) for no reason. Your stomach would stick out no matter how thin you are and I’m pretty sure I’m shorter so you would be too. Our feet are funny now, and you know that small waist I used to brag about to you? It’s gone too!”

While I’m lying around today, reading the Sunday times in my long t-shirt and no makeup on, I know you would be in a beautiful dressing gown (one of the ones you had made just before you left). You never looked less than beautiful! And we would talk on the phone. It’s a sunny August day, but I can’t bring myself to make chit chat with anyone on the outside. I really just want to talk with you. I needed to be alone today so it was good that Bob decided to play golf! I’m happy reading the paper and Vanity Fair. You wouldn’t recognize anyone in either the paper or the magazine anymore. I don’t, and I’ve been here all along. I wish I had you to discuss everything with. You know, what should we wear for fall? what colors? What coats? Or should we keep our hair long or go shorter? You always say, ‘keep our hair long, of course.’ Our same conversation we had every year.

I miss Thelma our oldest sister, too, but in a different way. You wouldn’t believe Terry’s daughter is going off to college and Jimmy’s boys are starting high school. Bob and I have been together thirty years now and I talk to your son, Tommy at least once a week. Isn’t it amazing how life went on but left me an only child (albeit an old only child), even though I was the youngest of three girls?

Most every day, I’m happy, but today, I’m missing you!!! Send me a sign.

Your loving sister,



Hiking For The Soul

August 16, 2016 at 6:00 AM


Sometimes there is an exercise that not only helps the body, but also clears your head and feeds your soul. Hiking in the mountains is one of them. To go in the forests and to think of nothing but your next step is so Zen and pure. You have no time to think of mundane realities that play a big part in your life – – only the next step. I love hiking and hope to do it until I can’t. When will that day come? I have no idea.

As much as I love the beach and the sand, that’s how much I love the mountains. I love the fresh air, the feeling of being away from everything and the strength that takes you every step. Hiking makes me feel I can do anything, if I put my mind to it. It makes me feel strong and, ok I’ll say it, young! I know. I know. I’m fooling myself, but if it feels good and it’s good for you, who does it hurt?

I’m in one of the most beautiful places on earth right now, Sun Valley, Idaho. The streams and the mountains and the Aspen trees shaking so gently in the breeze has me mesmerized. The town itself is wonderful, but the mountains really do it for me.

Even though, SV is beautiful, mountains anywhere will do the job and have throughout my life.

Hiking is it for me! Do it!

“The trees were friendly, they gave me rest and shadowed refuge. Slipping through them, I felt safe and competent. My whole body was occupied. I had little energy to think or worry.”

– Aspen Matis, Girl in the Woods: A Memoir



August 9, 2016 at 7:00 AM


Sadly, I went to a memorial service last week for a dear friend of my kids. He was a great kid who had grown up next door. He was way too young to die! Then, I heard a friend of ours had died. A friend that had taken good care of herself. A good woman who had battled fiercely for her life. More sadness, I went to the Dr. and he said, “let’s look at some issues of yours when you return from your vacation. Just have a good time.” It was all too much!

I needed an escape from reality for a couple of hours, where you don’t think of anything, but instead listen to great music and look at pretty faces. The newest Woody Allen film always does it for me. It really doesn’t matter which one it is. Of course they’re not all Annie Hall. But they are close enough. There is always someone playing Woody and then he has a slew of the newest and prettiest faces in the business saying what he thinks about life. It’s a great gig for him and for us. He gets to do a movie a year and we always know there is another Woody Allen film right around the corner. I love the skylines of whatever city he is filming and invariably he ends up in the city he loves the most, New York. Every scene is a love letter and I get totally caught up in it. For two hours, I am his. I know what he thinks about love, death and sex (his favorite topics) because he says it in every film using different actors, in a different period, in a different city.

As we get older and we all are so vulnerable and looking for an escape, we need a good book, a great movie, or a wonderful concert. We need something to carry us away from reality and yesterday this did it for me.

See Café Society, it’s a good summer movie!